Teens can turn to their friends for comfort when a relationship goes sour, but if it involves violence, their peers are less likely to help, a new study shows.
Their peers are more likely to be uncomfortable, change the subject and avoid the victim, U-M and Wayne State University researchers say.
“Peers might feel threatened when hearing of severe violence because they might fear the abuser or might be reminded that they, too, are vulnerable to severe violence in their relationships,” says Richard Tolman, the study’s co-author and a professor in the School of Social Work.
The study examined the responses to teens who disclosed dating violence or upsetting but non-violent experiences in their romantic relationships. The survey of 224 public high school students also asked about coping strategies and post-traumatic symptoms.
Adolescents were asked who they talked with about the situation: a friend, their boyfriend or girlfriend, a sibling, a parent, another family member or an adult in school, or no one at all. The study confirms previous research that adolescents are most likely to confide in friends, if they talked to anyone.
When boys disclosed less severe dating violence, their friends were more likely to minimize the situation. Girls, however, received more nurturing from their friends when they disclosed less violent situations.
Daniel Saunders, a co-author and professor in the School of Social Work, says: “The victim’s friends might have also responded differently based on what they are taught about the acceptability of males and females asking for help.”
The researchers say the study suggests a need for prevention programs that give family and friends effective skills for responding to situations that involve victimized teens. Victims also might benefit from professional help because of the complexity of dating violence, the study stated.
The findings appear in the recent issue of the Journal of Adolescence.
